All in One Financial Frees Up More Than Your Finances
People who think they need one thing before they can be or have another thing exercise a limiting belief. In today’s episode James will address a simple coaching process that can help you develop a new story—a positive, empowering story to support, strengthen, and accelerate your work, your life, and the choices you make and how you go about those choices. This approach will support the holistic financial planning structure by challenging the way you approach obstacles.
It is all too easy to put things off or justify inaction by telling ourselves stories that limit our options—or, worse, our selves. This is what the author calls the “X before Y” or “this before that” narrative. It is essentially a restrictive narrative; the rationalization of something that will hold you back. If you want to change this narrative, it’s important to bring self-awareness to the stories you tell yourself and their consequences. Often, these narratives can sound like rational—even helpful—justifications for doing or not doing something, but you just end up stuck and in your own way.
Be Your Own Life Coach: Moving Beyond “This Before That”
In life, there are some cases when you need to upskill or reskill before you can take on a role or move into a new phase of your life; however, leaning too far into that line of thinking can keep you in a comfort zone, preventing you from making the change you want to see from yourself. It sounds like a sensible justification for inaction that satisfies us intellectually-just not emotionally; further, it doesn’t improve results.
Change the Narrative: Interrogate Your Needs
Identifying a perceived gap in your knowledge, experience, skills, or resources implies that there’s a sequence of things you need to do or achieve before you can proceed. If that is where you find yourself, test out the validity of this belief with these coaching questions:
- What, from your line of thinking, is the order in which things need to happen?
- What evidence do you have to support this?
- What will pursuing more X (education, experience, etc.) give you?
- How else can you get where you want to go?
Rewritten Story: “What Are All the Ways I Can Achieve Y?”
Your desire to show up in your life, work, relationships more boldly and courageously might initially be met by a critical inner voice telling you that you need X before Y; you need to backtrack in order to step forward onto solid ground. When you question that narrative you create an opportunity to understand whether or not that truly applies to you.
Before you block yourself from growth, simply ask, “How can I do this? How many ways are there?” This framework frees you from limitations and opens you up to sustainable motivation and the possibility of growth and results.